The Stars Weigh In.

Just to be clear, I think astrology is a crock of shit. The idea that the position of the stars at the moment of my birth influences my behavior and personality is utterly ridiculous. However, their conclusions are often uncomfortably accurate and specific. For instance, I’ve been seeing this guy for three or four months now, and here’s what the stars have to say:

From [pronouns altered]:

This zodiac pair will probably come together in their shared interest in the finer things of life. Both the Snake [him] and Goat [me] are lovers of sensual pleasures and are attracted to things in which the senses take delight like good food, nice clothes and even artistic pursuits like music. In fact if resources are not a problem, the Goat can even spend a small fortune in tailored dresses and personal adornments [I own over two dozen bowties, even though I can barely pay my bills.]. This trait owes not so much to a sense of vanity or love of spending but actually an inherent trait in the Goat to arrange things prettily. While the Snake may be motivated differently, he too has a highly discriminating nature. At any party or social gathering, the guest who is most elegantly dressed, who samples the chocolate truffles appreciates the champagne with the greatest degree of awareness is likely to be a Snake. He is apt to engage in polite social discourse and impress others with his high level of sophistication. Thus the Snake and Goat will enjoy common tastes and pamper each other with similar indulgences in a relationship. This bond of mutual interests will go a long way in strengthening their romantic bond since when couples do enjoyable things together, they are more likely to remain with each other in the long run.

Likewise, another equally strong reason for the Snake and Goat staying together comes from the mutual attachment to home. This is more so in case of the Goat who takes immense pleasure in domestic comforts and interests. While the Snake is not as home-bound as the Goat, he will still prefer to bask in sun in his own garden or terrace instead of going out to party at a nightclub or a bar. Also the Snake can be quite particular about getting the best of food and drinks and so a homely partner as the Goat suits him who can cater to such indulgences of the Snake. Essentially both are alike in their social inclinations – while neither is unfriendly and in fact can even lay claim to a measure of social popularity, each is comfortable in intimate and familiar surroundings instead of hankering after novel and external stimulation.

Then again the Snake and Goat also serve to complement each other in a relationship. The Goat is quite an emotional creature and can be quickly upset by the vagaries of life. On such occasions, the Snake partner with a steadier mind and greater self-possession can help the Goat to find his/her emotional moorings. On the other hand the Snake can be susceptible to extremely jealousy when allied to restless or straying partners like the Horse or Monkey. However the Goat with his total and emotional submissiveness will give the Snake no reason to give way to negative feelings. [I wouldn’t call myself submissive, though. Loyalty and commitment don’t have to be submissive.]

Both the Goat and Snake have different levels of inner stamina. The Snake is much stronger and more courageous, persistent than the Goat; even though it is not always evident on the exterior, the Snake is capable of feeling things with great intensity which is why it is often known to be a jealous or at least a highly possessive lover. When there is lack of mutual trust and understanding between the partners, such intense emotions on the part of the Snake can sometimes overwhelm a softer being like the Goat [softer? what?]. The latter might find himself wilting under the heat of their partner’s intensity and in fact the Snake is not even above some shrewd emotional manipulation when it can suit his needs [or outright lying, as I prefer to think of it]. In the end the excessive emotionality might drain away the life force from the relationship and goad them hurt each other to the point of no return.

However a far more likely cause of unhappiness in the Snake-Goat relationship may be a lack of dynamism. Both the Snake and Goat are rather low-key personalities and each likes to be left to himself for most of the time. Thus neither will be able to provide to the other the input that is needed to express themselves to the full and that a far more assertive personality like the Dragon or the Monkey may have brought about. While this may not cause the Snake-Goat couple to break up, it could leave them with a sense of something wanting in the relationship and in case things get worse, it could also lead either partner astray.

I looked into the Greek system, but they don’t seem as accurate unless they’re repeating things said above.

  • He’s a hard worker with a strong sense of Standard Operating Procedure. He’s recently been promoted to assistant manager of the restaurant where he cooks, so now he’ll have the authority to make things work the way he wants them to.
  • He doesn’t like the way I knuckle under to the ex on matters related to my kids, but he’s got the more aggressive personality and the legal knowledge necessary to manage his divorce precisely as he wants, and I don’t.
  • If I didn’t have the child support payments, I’d make more than he does; I think he actually prefers to make more, despite the grumbling. He likes to be dominant in most situations, so maybe I’m more submissive than I like to think.
  • In hearing about his exes, and in watching how he relates to his family, I’ve decided that he has a habit of collecting strays. I’m no exception, just a little more well-heeled than the others.
  • He’s a firm atheist, so religious/spiritual subjects almost never come up, so I seldom have to think about the type of things that would fit this blog. I’m happy to have been delivered from the Christian school where I taught five months ago, but I miss conversation on religious topics.

I voice my appreciation of his specific qualities as they come to my attention, but the more I think about things, the more I think that I love him simply because I do. It feels natural and obvious, even though it doesn’t look that way to anyone else.




From A Midsummer Night’s Dream:

Lovers and madmen have such seething brains,
Such shaping fantasies, that apprehend
More than cool reason ever comprehends.
The lunatic, the lover and the poet
Are of imagination all compact:
One sees more devils than vast hell can hold,
That is, the madman: the lover, all as frantic,
Sees Helen’s beauty in a brow of Egypt:
The poet’s eye, in fine frenzy rolling,
Doth glance from heaven to earth, from earth to heaven;
And as imagination bodies forth
The forms of things unknown, the poet’s pen
Turns them to shapes and gives to airy nothing
A local habitation and a name.
Such tricks hath strong imagination,
That if it would but apprehend some joy,
It comprehends some bringer of that joy;
Or in the night, imagining some fear,
How easy is a bush supposed a bear!

I’ve mentioned some of the problems that I have with belief; this is a problem that I have with unbelief. I live in a world of unspeakable beauty, endless wonder, and unbounded joy. It is natural to me to say Thank you; not always for the life I live, but for the world I live in. The phrase Thank you implies a You, some second person, “some bringer of that joy.” I don’t know where the particular joys of my life originate, but they fill my heart until it will burst if I don’t thank someone.

Thank you mountains, for being round and massive. You make me feel safe.

Thank you trees, for being tall and many-armed. You restore me to myself.

Thank you flowers, for being fragile and beautiful. You remind me that an individual is delicate, but that species return perennially.

Thank you geese and squirrels and lizards and spiders and mice. You teach me to share my space, my world, with others.

And thank you, Allah, Vishnu, Jehovah, Zeus, Wotan, Gaia, unknown Creator. I love the world you have given me.